Distance Makes the Heart Grow… Stronger

My Journey

With the beginning of the New Year still fresh on everyone’s mind, I have decided to add something new to my “resolution” list. I think for this blog to be as awesome a10215906-202050554_1-s1-v1s I want it to be, I will need to become more transparent in what I am calling my journey.

I mean at the end of the day that is what this blog is about.. Jasmine’s Journey.. I am Jasmine so it wouldn’t be fair if I didn’t share my entire journey with you all. So here we go.

Like most girls in their 20s, I have had a few crushes, and even a few relationships. This past one, I think, taught me the most lessons. When I say lessons I don’t just mean what I want in the next guy I date, I also mean the relationship taught me a little more about who I am.

After some thought, and time, I have decided to share my experience of a long distance relationship.

First, let me make this disclaimer, I am not against LDRs in any way. For some people it is unavoidable, and under the perfect circumstance, it can work out. Obviously, this post is about an LDR that did not work.

Lesson #1: Communication is Key
For starters, it is hard to make any relationship work if 90% of the communication is via text messages. I am a millennial and I will own up to that. Constantly texting your significant other is not healthy. Both parties need to be open to other forms of communication, and if your SO isn’t willing, or makes it seem like too much of a hassle to talk on the phone or FaceTime, then that should be red flag #1.

The key to making any LDR successful is communication. I can say that is something my LDR lacked. Even though we texted all day every day, we hardly ever really communicated.

In all future relationships, romantic or not, I am going to make an effort to always have a good line of communication.

Lesson #2: Nevgetting-over-it-quotes-get-over-it-quotes-letting-go-and-moving-on-quote-move-on-its-just-a-chapter-in-the-past-but-dont-close-the-book-just-turn-the-pageer Settle
Another issue I found with my LDR is that the entire relationship was always an LDR. We never had a chance to live near each other and just experience what a normal relationship was like… actually no I take that back, we had one summer when we both stayed in the Little Rock area, but that was after we had already been “dating” for months. Then, once summer was over we went right back to our LDR for the next year and a half.

I knew my personality wasn’t up for something like that, but I kept saying once we graduate it will get better. When I would say that, though, I didn’t realize I was settling on my dreams. Never settle.

I have always been a big dreamer, and I’ll be honest some of my dreams are pretty unrealistic, but I don’t want anything, or anyone to hold me back from at least attempting them.

I’m 20, basically 21 now, I’m too young to just sit down and commit to one thing for the rest of my life. This is the only chance in life we get to go out and explore and travel and do all the things we won’t be able to do once we get an established career and family.

Final Thoughts:
Now I was not the one to end the relationship. I was willing to hold on and see what happened once we both graduated, but by him deciding to end things, my life has honestly gotten better. I have nothing against him, but I have realized that by holding on to him, and our relationship, so tight, I was missing out on things that were happening right in front of me.

LDRs are hard. I will always admit and own up to that fact. The people that say LDRs are easy are liars. It wasn’t until just a few weeks ago that I became aware of the stress that the relationship put on me.

But I am thankful for the relationship. He served a purpose for a time in my life, and I appreciate that. I also learned a lot about myself and grew, not only from the experience but from the heartbreak.

Even though this past relationship didn’t end in marriage, I grew, and to me, that makes for a good relationship. I hope you all don’t feel like this is too personal. I want this blog to be a true reflection of my journey, and my journey isn’t going to be all rainbows and sunshine, sometimes there will be clouds and rain.

 

It’s the Climb

My Journey

*Inhales deeply*  Ahhh….
I made it, no, better yet we made it. This has been one crazy year and it all seemed to happen so fast.

This post was originally supposed to be about the past semester in school, but lifimg_7376e happened and this has now turned into a reflection on the year in its entirety.

I think I speak for the general public when I say that this year will go down as one of the craziest years in history. I mean the election in itself was enough to make people crazy, no matter who you wanted to win. I am proud to say that I was able to exercise my 19th amendment right.

Now that’s all I’ll say about politics. Let’s talk about me now.

This year consisted of me finishing up my sophomore year, and beginning the first half of my junior year. It is still crazy to think that I only have 3 semesters (and a few summer classes) left until I’m kicked out into the real world.

This past semester was one of my more challenging semesters. I am starting to get into the bulk of major and minor classes and the work is tough, but I couldn’t imagine going to school for anything else. Public Relations is where I belong.
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I served as the social media manager for the University of Central Arkansas’ PRSSA chapter this semester and will hold the position again this spring. It has been a great experience, and I can’t wait to do more with it this spring.

Even though this semester was very challenging, I finished with my highest GPA yet. I was so close to a 3.0, but I ended with a 2.8. This coming semester I am challenging myself to finish with a 3.0 or higher.

I have the best roommate this year. Skylar and I hit it off from the day we moved in. We have shared countless late night laughs and food runs, as well as late night vent sessions and dance parties.

I am truly thankful for my friends and family, they helped me get through the rough spots this year, and helped celebrate the highs too. Without them, I would not be where I am, or who I am today.

Over the summer I moved back home to Rogers, AR and lived at home with my mom, Willie, and Marcus. Of course, I would’ve much rather stayed in Central Arkansas and maintained my “independent” lifestyle, but situations came up to where moving home was the best option.

Now, being home was not awful in any way. I truly enjoyed being able to spend time with my family and brothers, because we are all getting older and moments like that are going to become harder to coordinate. But I was very happy when August finally came around and it was time for me to move back to Conway.

A few months ago my boyfriend and I decided that it was time to go our separate ways. At the time it seemed like my world was ending, but I quickly made it to the other side. me-time

Since then I have grown and learned more about myself and what I want in that aspect of life. With all lows that life brings, this one taught me many lessons. I am thankful for all the lessons this year has taught me, and I can confidently say that I have grown a lot during these past twelve months.

As 2016 comes to an end and 2017 approaches, I have decided to make a few New Years resolutions:

  • I plan on reading one book per month for the entire year, I want to expand my knowledge past what I learn in the classroom.
  • Becoming more mindful of my actions, meaning that everything I do has a purpose to either better myself or the people around me
  • Not to hold on to the things that hold me back. I have big dreams for my future and I want to surround myself with people who have a similar mindset so that they propel me forward, not backward
  • Continue to break out of my comfort zone. I’m not sure if many of you know this, but I am a very shy and introverted person. I don’t want to turn myself into an extrovert by any means, but I want to challenge myself each day to do something that makes me a little uncomfortable.

I hope that all of you had a great 2016 too, I know at times it seemed like the world was ending and far too many legends were taken away from us, but, we made it to the end. My prayer for all of you is that 2017 brings nothing but blessings and good fortune.

Like Miley Cyrus said.. “it’s the climb” and I plan to continue climbing until I reach my peak.

Now let’s all buckle in and enjoy the ride because come January 20, we will all enter a new and unprecedented era.

Year Three

My Journey

Where should I start? I am currently in the second full week of my junior year at the University of Central Arkansas, and I could not be any more overwhelmed.

It feels as though I just started this crazy college experience, but I am past the halfway mark (silently screams into pillow.) Where in the world has the time gone? In a year and a half, people will expect me to know adult things, like paying bills and balancing a checkbook.

Newsflash America, most millennials like myself have never written a check in our lives. All this fancy education hasn’t taught us how to pay bills or do taxes, or any of that useful adult stuff.

In all seriousness, though, this has been the best start to a new school year. Previously I struggled with making friends and getting involved on campus, but I am well past all of those obstacles already!

I am the Publicity Chair for the University’s chapter of Public Relations Student Society of America. My main task is making sure that our name/brand is out on social media, and that our social media sites are always buzzing with information about meetings and other PR related topics. I am also a member of the National Society of Leadership and Success.

As this year continues I will try to update you all on any exciting experiences I have. It’s still crazy to me how I only have two more years left. It seems like just yesterday I was packing up to head down here.